Self care

27 May 2017

Self care

'Self care is not about self-indulgence, its about self-preservation' - Audre Lorde

We live in a society that seems to find a way to invalidate peoples experiences and emotions, and cultivates insecurities to the point its almost impossible to love yourself and any inkling that you may love yourself is regarded as conceited. Of late I have seen an uprising of women promoting self love and self care, its become a trend that I hope is here to stay. The idea of practising self care is often met with scepticism and dismissed as a radical narcissistic act or a practice reserved for women only. But as humans we are all worthy of care and love.

I often find myself putting other peoples needs and desires above my own, limiting the time and energy I have to deal with my own problems. I am the type of person that carries the weight of peoples pain and problems on my shoulders. Which has left me anxious, stressed out and feeling emotionally drained. My solution lately has been to step back and prioritise my emotions, my needs and desires ahead of others. All the love and care I was pouring into others I have started to pour into myself and it has been a worthwhile practice. Its become a way to heal the wounds accumulated by attending to other people. When i have focused my attention on myself and everything I want to accomplish it has allowed me to recharge, restore and reset.

Here are some of the ways I have been regularly practising self care, which both men and women can try.

1. Unplug for 30 minutes or even an hour.

Once a day I try to put my phone on do no disturb, close my door and not talk to anyone for up to 1 hour. Usually in this time I read the bible, pray or worship but I have also read a book or had a long bubble bath. Other things to try are listening to music or meditating.

2. Get enough sleep.

Lack of sleep can affect your productivity and can also lead to health problems. Prioritise some snooze time for a healthier and more productive you.

3. Get out of town.

Maybe the budget isn't allowing for a quick trip to New York for the weekend, so why not try visiting a city or town an hour or so away on the train. Explore the city by yourself or take a loved one with you and escape the reality at home. By building new experiences it can help reshape your focus. If I could have a holiday every 4 months I definitely would, its one of the best ways  I have found to regain peace.

4. Spoil yourself!

(within reason of course) I am not one to ignore an e-mail from Missguided telling me they have a sale on, I usually already have several items in my bag already waiting for them to announce the sale/discount. Sometimes treat yourself, you are worth it. It doesn't have to be make up or clothes like me, maybe take yourself out for a nice meal, go and get your nails done or get a trim.

5. Spend time with loved ones!

In moments of stress or anxiety I have found speaking to someone from back home whether it be a friend, cousin or even my mum it has deeply comforted me.

There are 100's of other ways you can practice self care, those are just a few of my favourite methods.

Until next time.

Chengetai Victoria

I haven't washed my hair in a year!

17 May 2017

I haven't Shampooed my hair in a year!

I haven't used shampoo on my hair for a year and my hair has never been better. I also barely ever put a comb or brush to my head but that is a story for another day, kids. Now before all of you start calling me dirty, I can already feel your judging eyes on me, I have been washing it but with conditioner I believe this is called a co-wash. I wash my natural locks with conditioner before deep conditioning it once every two weeks ( if I can summon the energy that is). The reason I have given shampoo the cold shoulder is because of how dry it can leave my hair feeling. Where as co-washing leaves my hair feeling moisturised without stripping away my hairs natural oils. I've also found that it defines my curls and makes my hair a lot easier to comb.
Shampoo free and my hair hasn't turned to mould!
The term 'sulfate-free' is a term I'm sure most of us have seen or heard on labels or in advertising. If you are wondering what exactly sulfates are, you are not alone in asking that. Sulfates are detergents, used to cleanse, they can be found in in soaps, which is why some labels may claim to be 'soap free', usually referring to the absence of sulfates. If you look on the back of your shampoo, face washes or body washes you may find sodium lauryl sulfate or ammonium lauryl sulfate, these are two of the most common sulfates you'll find. Sulfates are great for really, getting rid of dirt and product build up, however, they can really leave your hair dry and sometimes even cause split ends. Sulfate free shampoos won't completely wash away your hairs moisture. So, who should use sulfate free shampoos you may be wondering? Well, if you're someone who dyes their hair commonly sulfate free is the best option for you. As Afro-curly/kinky hair is naturally coarser, prone to dryness and fragile its in its best interest to avoid products which can further enhance the dryness or fragility.
When your hair is shampoo free and poppin'

A natural alternatives to shampoo is applying a tablespoon of baking soda on your wet scalp and rinsing followed by rinsing with apple cider vinegar. Whilst I haven't tried this technique personally, I have heard great things and I know some people aren't ready to remove the cleansing stage out of wash day just yet.

As for how I manage to avoid combing my hair, I will let you know soon.

Until next time,

Chengetai Victoria

GroHealthyUK Shea and Coconut Review| BOLU NOELLE

26 April 2017


SO, this weekend, I attended an amazing brunch with GroHealthyUK hosted by FroGirlGinny.
I was invited by the gorgeous Justine who runs social media pages and marketing for the brand.
We sipped tea, talked relationships and had a mini photoshoot, and at the end, I was gifted their amazing Shea and Coconut range.

I was so excited to try the range that I used their Leave In and Smooth Edge edge control that same night.

The leave in instantly nourishes strands-even for my medium to low porosity hair! And the edge control! It's always a task to find an edge control that doesn't dry out your edges, leave flakes and that actually controls your edges right? Well I've done it!
This is the real MVP. It slick down my edges leaving them conditioned at the same time, which frankly I thought was impossible. Soft sleek edges are possible with Gro Healthy.

I also used the Curling Custard and was pleasantly surprised to find that it worked in a number of seconds and had an incredible hold that lasted overnight and beyond. For my coarser hair texture, this can be hard to find, and I am so pleased.

The Shea and Coconut oil is a blend of Shea Butter with Jojoba, Coconut, Argan, Avocado and Olive oils. Its such a smooth and light blend which doesn't leave your hair greasy or weighed down. It can be used in tiny amounts to nourish your strands. It can also be used when bae gives you a scalp massage!

Another thing I love about the brand is that, as the name says, all the ingredients in their products are clean and help the hair to really grow healthy.

Coconut, tropics, holidays, love..

All I can say is that when you have big bold hair, its great when it can smell as great as it looks.

So I give this range the thumbs up! It's affordable, the ingredients are great and it actually works!

Hope this helps!
Bolu Noelle

Getting Ready With GroHealthy!| BOLU NOELLE

20 April 2017

Hey loves!
As you will know, our team of bloggers have been working with the amazing GroHealthy.
They're an affordable, clean brand with products suitable for natural and relaxed hair too!

Today, I'll be showing you how I get my sleek low puff style using the Shea and Coconut GroHealthy range. This is one of my favourite styles as its so easy and quick to do and low maintenance making it a protective style- perfect for the cold winter!
This style is also great for various hair textures and hair lengths too.
This is the full range:

Here's how I achieved the style:

-On freshly washed and stretched hair, I applied Gro Healthy Frizz Fighter  to smooth out my hair. I then add their Curling Custard. NEW PRODUCT ALERT-THIS IS LIFE! Like, the curls just start popping out of nowhere! And it moisturises your strands at the same time.
I rub this into my hair and I don't even have to finger coil each strand-the product works wonders just by simply applying it.

The next step is optional and depends on your desired outcome; if you have more time and want even more curl definition, you can follow this step.

-Section your hair into 6-8 while applying the above mentioned products and twist or flat-twist your hair in these sections. Allow the products to dry about 80% before taking down the twists. They can be left in overnight.

-Create your middle or side part using a rat-tail comb. Using a soft bristle brush, brush your hair as flat as possible towards the back of your head. Use medium sized bobby pins to sure each section of hair into place, creating your desired shape of puff. You can the add a large hair tie, but don't tie it round too many times as it shrinks the puff size! Wrap it just enough for it to secure the shape of your puff.

-Add the Shea and Coconut Edge Control to the perimeter on your hair and brush to add more sleekness to your style and get those edges LAID. You can also use this product to slick down baby hairs if that's your style!

-Add a satin scarf around your heading (excluding the puff so as not to flatten it) and VOILA!
An easy, sleek style that's suitable for parties, school, work- you name it!

And on top off all that goodness- your hair smells like mangoes and holiday and love and joy

Thanks for reading!
Bolu Noelle

Getting Perfect Hair| ELEANOR J'ADORE

18 April 2017

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In the craziness that was December 2016 I had the opportunity to experience the South African natural hair care brand that is The Perfect Hair up close and personal. I was invited by none other than entrepreneur and business mogul herself, Taryn Gill, creator of the The Perfect Hair to have an in-salon experience with her range of products that were specifically created for natural kinks, curls and waves.
Situated in Parktown North Johannesburg,  The Perfect Hair retail space is located on the ground floor of the Be-You-tiful Dry Bar, which means that when you go in to purchase your product you can also be pampered with a beauty salon experience upstairs. In other words, you can have your hair washed, conditioned and styled with The Perfect Hair and combine it with a manicure or a lash extension application. Sounds pretty good right? I highly recommend you take up this offer when you’re in the mood for your next pamper session.
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For the purposes of this review I’ll talk about three of the products that I had the opportunity to try. And I’ll follow this piece up with another review of more products in a few weeks.
The Perfect Co-Wash
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I’ve mentioned before that I’m not the biggest co-washer out there, but that was before I used this product, which is a very creamy and conditioning suds-free cleanser. I’ve come to love it so much that I use it up to 3 times in between my weekly shampoo sessions. 3 times people!  That really is a lot of co-washing for me, but I just love it so damn much and it leaves my hair quite soft even before I’ve added conditioner to it.
It contains too many ingredients for me to list, but here are some of the stand-out ones:
Coconut Oil, Castor Seed Oil, Shea Butter and Gingko Biloba Extract.
The Perfect Curl – Deep-Deep Conditioner
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I love that the rest of the products are divided into The Perfect Wave, The Perfect Curl and the Perfect Kinky Coil, which means that a range of products have specifically been created for your natural texture. Since my hair is curly I used the The Perfect Curl Deep-Deep Conditioner – a deeply penetrating conditioner that uses cashmere croteins to moisturise hair from within. If like me you don’t know what a crotein is, it’s an amino acid complex derived from keratin protein that penetrates the hair cortex, increase moisture levels and also elasticity. It improves the hair’s manageability and appearance.
So it’s this cashmere crotein in combination with the ingredients below that leave my hair feeling super soft and ready for styling every time I use it:
Glycerin, Coconut Oil, Argan Oil.
The Perfect Curl – Style
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This two-in-one leave-in conditioner and styling cream is the perfect leave-in for my type of corkscrew curls. I find it moisturising enough to not have to bother applying my usual coconut oil as a sealant afterwards as it also contains coconut oil and glycerin, both listed in the top five ingredients, so you can be sure that it contains an abundance of it. Cashmere croteins make an appearance again and promise to protect against frizz, even in high humidity.
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All the products smell amazing and most of them come in beautiful see-through glass jars so you’re always in the know regarding how much product is left. I find the jars really pretty and perfect for re-using afterwards, but I must say it can get a bit heavy for travelling. So I’d recommend decanting some of it into smaller travel-friendly sized containers to make sure you still have your favourite products with you while on the go.
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The entire range is available for purchase via The Perfect Hair or you can pop into their retail space situated at No23, 7th Avenue, Parktown North, Johannesburg.
Have you used The Perfect Hair products before? What are your thoughts on this proudly South African natural hair care range?

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